I was that mom…
Let me preface this with the fact I started writing this yesterday, got halfway through and then stopped to do something else…different day, same moral. Thanks for checking it out 😉
So I was that mom this morning. The one who felt out of control. The one who got running ridiculously late and ended up screaming at my babes. The one who left the house in a full on panic, not because my kids were going to be late to school, but because I was going to be late to my workout class. Wow. I’ve been working pretty hard on myself lately to be better. A better mom. A better wife. A better business owner. Better to myself. Because of this, my actions this morning feel extra yucky!
The reason I’m sharing this is not necessarily to throw myself under the bus (which I am sort of doing) but instead for the reminder to go easy on myself. Nobody is perfect. Life is crazy. We all do things from time to time we don’t feel good about. That being said, I’ve learned that dwelling on the past does nothing to serve my life in the future.
This past weekend I had the opportunity to travel to Las Vegas to attend a convention of more than 20 thousand network marketers from all around the world. We heard from top earners in many different companies, which was awesome to hear about their successes and tips for growing a successful business, but the real highlight was spending 4+ hours with Tony Robbins and gaining insight into his suggestions for taking action and living a happy and fulfilling life.
I have been in on the personal development game for some time but seeing this highly influential person speak live was pretty powerful. He has an undeniable presence and the ability to get you thinking about life in ways you never have before. It was mind blowing, to be honest! My biggest take away from Tony was that motion creates emotion. We are in control of our perceptions and have the ability to choose to be happy or choose to be miserable. Everything in life is a CHOICE.
So how does this relate to me turning into a total psychopath this morning? You see, I woke up and set myself up for it. I didn’t get out of bed when the alarm went off. I pressed snooze four times. When I finally did get up, I sat on the couch with my littlest and zoned out on my phone while he watched Elf. I filled my mind with a dose of the daily negativity thats spewed out through current events. I knew time was ticking on but instead of getting my kids ready I found more ways to distract from simply getting ready and before I knew it, we were 20 minutes behind and I was a monster.
So what could I have done differently? Well, first of all, I know I do better when I give myself extra time in the morning, and do what Tony likes to call the “Hour of Power”. This is when you get up first thing in the morning and do something for yourself. Preferably, you get your body moving and you take time to reflect, meditate, pray, plan, etc. etc. For a long time my wake up call was 5 am and in the last several weeks, it has been pushed back further and further to a place where I am getting out of bed when my kids wake up and that gives me ZERO time to have a few minutes to myself before full-on adulting has to happen. I know this sets the stage for a rush, rush morning and I need to CHOOSE to get up earlier and have that time I know I desperately need in my day!
I also know I need to be better about managing my time. There is so much to do in my daily routine (two kids, a husband, three businesses, personal time, eating, showering, etc.) that I oftentimes find myself avoiding my to-do list because its just so damn overwhelming. I then realize I have wasted so much time doing things that make me feel less productive and I’m mad at myself. This is such a vicious cycle that I personally struggle with and I know that in order to avoid it, I need to chunk my time. For those who may not know what I mean when I say chunking, this is when I break out my to-do list and actually set a time limit I am going to allow myself to work on individual tasks…social media posts and follow up – 30 min. Catching up on emails – 15 min. Bills – 35 min. You get the point!
At the end of day, there are all of these perfect ideas of how we can be happier, more productive, in better shape, etc. etc. but there is ZERO way we can do it all, one hundred percent of the time. We can try and make the best choices, get ourselves in a zone of forming good habits, end each day feeling like total rockstars but at some point, we falter and thats ok! One of the biggest blessings I have received from expanding myself as a business woman is all of the personal development I have done along the way. I am far, far from perfect, but I have come a long way. And for that, I should be proud and offer myself a little grace on those days I fall a bit short!
“It’s not about perfect, its about effort! And when you bring that effort every single day, that’s where transformation happens. That’s where change occurs” – unknown
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